Dearly cherished, we are obtained here right now to cope with this thing called⦠a period finale! Yes, it’s genuine, present episode signifies the end of the absolute smash hit which was S2 of
Hold Off, So Is This A Date?
And also to commemorate that stopping, exactly who safer to come-on and talk about the joys and achievements of a long distance crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You will accept Elise from Lifetime’s wonderful queer xmas rom-com which come aside a year ago,
Beneath The Christmas Time Tree
,
but around these components, she’s another name which almost as vaunted: Drew’s girl! Yes, you got that right, this sparkling twosome ended up being birthed from the fantastic queer practice: the long distance crush.
Exactly what will it be about the cross country crush that will be therefore appealing to queers all over the world? Will it be the general scarceness of like minded queers around you? Perhaps the power to flirt cross country takes some of the force off? The three people enter everything, AND Drew and Elise share some potentially as well lovable information about their unique relationship!
And of course there can be a-game! This week, I make Drew have fun with the game that merely got more than Twitter and Tiktok for a couple momentary months: “They’re a 10 but⦔ It’s a very good time, throughout!
PROGRAM RECORDS
+ Practice Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Study Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ View
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it however rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs tend to be⦠without a doubt very powerful!
+ may Shortz is actually title regarding the NYT Crossword publisher!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: immediately after which we had gotten from the phone, right after which both of us hopped in the telephone two mere seconds later on we are like, “Therefore, the line is shut, we are legitimately prohibited to really go throughout the border.”
Christina
: after all, top among one of my favorite voice memos as well as messages i acquired from Drew, i cannot keep in mind which form it came in, it had been want, “we made this plan of action and now the edges tend to be shut.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it was a real second.
[theme track plays]
Drew
: Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina
: And That I’m Christina.
Drew
: And introducing
Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?
Christina
:
Hold Off, Is It A Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me personally obtaining giggles, therefore the question that will be on everyone’s mouth, wait, ended up being this a romantic date?
Drew
: we are at the conclusion of the 2nd period, and I think we solved it, I think.
Christina
: Yeah, I think i am just getting large finale electricity, like when comedies had previously been before a facility market, and everyone would walk in so there was an hour or so of applause as it had been like, it is the last, that is how I’m feeling. Though is obvious, nobody provides applauded myself yet, hateful. Thank you, thanks a lot. Today I feel loved and presented. Drew, who’re you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about that part.
Christina
: Yeah, proper?
Drew:
Possibly period three I’ll have the intros. I am Drew Gregory, Im an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans woman. Do you know what, I think whenever we do another period i do want to have a great one we throw in right at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, something spicy, you need to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t anything today however.
Christina
: Okay, leave all of them hoping more, I think which is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: I am Christina Tucker, Im additionally an author at Autostraddle, additionally the net in particular. A podcaster, a gay Black girl, and someone who’s sensation very jazzy here about mid-day.
Drew
: Great, i am truly grateful that you’re jazzy and I’m spicy, or perhaps I’m planning the chance that at some point I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you’re like, I’m not sure, one half the film Dune, the spice will come. Cool reference, girls, she’s solitary. Anyway, i really do have a casino game for us playing about hollowed day of our very own finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: Here Is The classic, by traditional I Am Talking About a casino game that annexed the net and TikTok for a couple weeks, “They Are a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: Now Drew, i will establish some surface regulations for your needs, because I’m sure you like a followup question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I say they may be a 10, they’re a 10 to you personally by any means that really matters to you, that could be literally, that might be emotionally, this is just individuals you feel is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, okay, thank you so much.
Christina
: i really do not have any circumstances for what else you contained in this individual have-been carrying out inside internet dating existence, you are simply gonna have to go with your gut and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to place in which make that clear, here we get. They are a 10, even so they clap when the plane lands.
Drew
: i decided individuals were also remarkable with this particular, in which it is like they’re a 10 and this thing makes them choose a two, come-on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: thus I’m planning to nonetheless give a fairly reasonable eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe that is reasonable. In my opinion eight is the correct amount of cringe removing for that small activity. Fine, it is an excellent begin. Okay, they can be a nine however they never text you first.
Drew
: and I also can’t ask followup questions?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: thus I cannot ask, well would they text myself back when we text? I would personally say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, perhaps not texting first actually ever, which is rough.
Drew
: Actually ever is strange.
Christina
: which is crude stuff. All right, they might be a five even so they drive you to every errand that you’ve had to perform.
Drew
: That’s very nice, but i possibly could constantly⦠If there are five, we’ll provide him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i am aware you love an unicamente jaunt anyway, you love an errand run.
Drew
:What i’m saying is now my personal girl Elise performed drive me to an errand, and I ended up being very thankful, but if that has been the one and only thing she did we’dn’t maintain a commitment, that has been merely an additional little nice bonus.
Christina
: i believe that’s fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: fine, they are a seven nonetheless they only pretend to read work.
Drew
: look at element of that that bothers myself may be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we realized it could be.
Drew
: it isn’t the maybe not reading it. Should they did not review might work it is like, I am not that, I’d be some, its like never? But it’s fine, i possibly could overcome it. But they lay for me about this is exactly what’s unusual in my opinion, making sure thatshould go down to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, proper, proper. They’ve been a three but they get access to the criterion closet.
Drew
: And perform I have you to definitely go?
Christina
: and you also have accessibility, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: i really could have a solid fling with that six.
Christina
: In my opinion you can. It had been a three, but yeah, you’re slamming it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what i am claiming, i am knocking it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I love that. They’re an eight but their pals tend to be directly.
Drew
: Okay, there was some discourse about any of it, because I think there was clearly a you’ll need assist. I believe We possibly had been on face-to-face area of most associated with Autostraddle group just who mentioned that its great to only have direct friends. I would like to say that it is okay, it is simply maybe not the life span We lead. All direct pals, that will go to a two.
Christina
: Yeah, i’ll must trust you thereon one, I would merely think it is slightly troubling, complicated.
Drew
: All right buddies?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re fresh to queerness and generally are planning to fulfill even more queer individuals, that’s unique of if they are a well established period queer who is love, you-know-what? I like getting the only lesbian within my friend number of right individuals.
Christina
: Yeah, i’d feel the in an identical way if this ended up being a Black individual that was like, “I don’t have any dark buddies,” i’d resemble, “what’s happening there?” Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a system sitcom, we cannot have a token individual.
Christina
: You don’t need to become token, you don’t need to do that to yourself. Okay, there is three more. They truly are a seven even so they spend all their own time in the gym, continuously weight lifting down and up. I am not sure what individuals would at the gym.
Drew
: All of their sparetime. I suppose it depends about what matters as spare time. We’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump all of them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: but that is good. I guess it all depends mostly for my situation, that I’m not inquiring a follow concern, i am staying with five, however it is dependent to me what counts as free time.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: are we able to view films collectively, or head out to consume, is free-time? Isn’t operate time leisure time, or is it just like when we don’t have other activities?
Christina
: we listen to you, I hear you.
Drew
: But we’ll stick with five.
Christina
: All right. They’re six, but their mommy is sexier than they are.
Drew
: Oh, I am not sure to increase or down.
Christina
: i am aware, right?
Drew
: I do not think i possibly could actually ever date some one for their⦠It’s like if I’m maybe not drawn to somebody in the first place, I’m most likely not gonna be online dating them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I am not gonna be love, well, they are able to develop into their unique hot mother. I do believe I would point out that they are nonetheless a six, I’m simply planning not refer to them as and I’m probably call their unique mom.
Christina
: Yeah, I feel adore it’s as you stay alike, but maybe I go out to you some more than I would personally in order-
Drew
: that is a great point.
Christina
: for some mommy time. I really don’t consider you alter.
Drew
: I did something actually poor that I still think severely when it comes to, that is that someone asked me personally completely, and also this had been when I was at university, and I also had not been interested, and so I had been obvious about this, I became clear I wasn’t curious. But then she wanted to be buddies, and I also could inform that she stated she planned to be buddies it was from location-
Christina
: She was actually wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. Nevertheless thing would be that all the woman pals were truly hot and cool, I really performed always been the woman friend being spend time together pals. I did not lay about my personal intentions usually, however it however wasn’t the best thing Used to do as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: What i’m saying is regrettably it reminds myself of the episode of
Sex and the City
in which Carrie’s relationship, I do believe it really is Justin Theroux, and he sucks, but his family stones, and she’s like, i will do this for a bit. I’m like, yeah, definitely, who cannot.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t trying to connect together with his household, the distinction, but you know very well what? It’s okay, we’re all great.
Christina
: A hookup can look like any such thing, I’m constantly stating that.
Drew
: That’s a truly fantastic point.
Christina
: Your final any, is actually a three but has actually a beach house.
Drew
: i am planning to say a frustrating sentence, but I visited NYU.
Christina
: Horrible to say.
Drew
: a thing that sucks about me, which this is gonna appear to be a simple boast, since it is really probably good figure characteristic, nevertheless sucks as individuals checking out the world. I went along to a college which is filled up with wealthy those that have a number of awesome beach houses, and all sorts of these other stuff, and I merely turned into pals with others who have been indeed there on scholarships. Not only, but mainly, we definitely, i did not socialize with individuals who’d coastline houses.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t make use of.
Drew
: Yeah, and so I think if they are a three nevertheless they have actually a beach house, they’re most likely a-two. The truth⦠I am not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you merely can not make that step to utilize the sick beach house minute.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m truly wanting is that my buddies who will be relatively down-to-earth, good people, many of these are simply just going to always have that brand new money after which get coastline homes, after which i will be in a position to spend time using my great buddies and be at a beach house. That’s the fantasy in which i really could obtain the beach home.
Christina
: this is the dream after the day, it’s new cash and a beach home, that is all we are looking. You heard it right here first folks.
Drew
: I like new money.
Christina
: Love new money.
Drew
: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, which was a delight. I would in fact, I’d truly been planning to play that online game since it ended up being something on TikTok, thus thanks to make my aspirations come true.
Christina
: I imagined it would be an enjoyable a person to do, therefore had been extremely enjoyable to create all of them.
Drew
: Well, should we proceed to our main section associated with the few days, basically dropping for folks who live-in some other places. And is different than long-distance interactions, because long-distance connections may start well into a commitment, capable continue on into a commitment, here is the need that queer men and women have to examine their unique destination that they stay and get, no, I’m not going to flirt by using these folks, I’m going to go on instagram.com and locate somebody who life very far-away. And we also have a, I know we always state an extremely unique guest, but for me that is a rather unique guest. Do you want to present your self?
Elise
: i’d like to introduce me. Have always been I the unique visitor?
Drew
: You are, yes.
Christina
: Baby, naturally.
Elise
: Great, wow, incredible. I am Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, I’m a queer person, and that I’m here today because I’m sleeping with among hosts.
Christina
: Guess which one?
Elise
: Yeah, all of those other podcast is simply the audience attempting decipher which number i am sleeping with. I really like that, it really is like a murder secret but-
Christina
: there is no way to know.
Elise
: There’s no solution to understand. Yeah, performs this make me personally a nepotism infant? Usually how sector really works.
Christina
: Yes, which is the sector works, girl.
Elise
: cool, wonderful.
Christina
: This is it.
Elise
: Wow, perhaps I could get a profession from this.
Christina
: fingertips crossed individually.
Elise
: Nepo infant to position, wow, fantastic. I usually wanted to be a nepo infant.
Christina
: I’m therefore happy.
Drew
: Yeah, I was merely going to point out that for those who do not know, well I am just ruining the murder secret of it all, but Elise and I are located in an union, and did start relationship through the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and that I live in la, that are indeed different towns, as they are actually in different countries.
Elise
: they truly are without a doubt, they are indeed.
Christina
: And Drew, not to imply you moved against your personal abdomen, but I do feel as though you are often somebody who states, the reason why bother with a lengthy range minute? You’ll find folks listed here I am able to date, why do this to your self? You realize it will be hard, you are sure that it’s going to be difficult, how come this? Yet here you happen to be.
Drew
: See, which is interesting, because i’m like i enjoyed to own a bit of both, I just think I didn’t take the cross country types perhaps as severely.
Christina
: possibly that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But I always loved an extended length flirt.
Christina
: Real.
Drew
: therefore i think this merely stored going. When we started-
Elise
: and so the solution, Drew, wasn’t that I was merely attractive also it had been private in my experience, and that it ended up being extremely specific if you ask me that I became only extremely irresistible and that means you just broke all of your current principles and also you said, “i must have that certain.”
Drew
: after all its type of the solution in a longer good sense. In the sense this merely kept occurring. And then all of our buddys on the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, who I familiar with accept, as some people may already know, I would personally be like, I’d be wanting to date individuals throughout pandemic in l . a . while the surrounding aspects of Los Angeles. Then they would generate enjoyable of me because I would sometimes just be similar, “What i’m saying is, I could just try to date Elise Bauman.” I was constantly, “I mean, {this person|this i
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